Is it because we hate ourselves? I've noticed how hate and envy swims freely between female to female relationships only. Like what the fuck? Nothing the other woman does is good, if she lost weight during the summer she was starving herself maybe she was even heard puking her lunch once! Or maybe she worked out really hard and changed her diet? decided to be healthy and pay attention to her own body, learned to love herself? If she is pretty is bad, she being ugly is also bad, too fat too thin, hair too long too short too successful, pregnant at fifteen, has a good guy, oh boy those pants! Stop it! I remember being a little girl and worrying about my weight, Jewsus! Making real friendships with other women has being one of the hardest things to do since I became an "adult". I've tried to get out of such habits, seriously, other women are allowed to be pretty too and I've decided to be okey dokey with it and I can do it and I can be less critical of myself because I stop being critical of others which means that I've stopped the hating cycle and my eyes are free to rejoice on the amazing person in front of me. This is a very personal decision, not saying we should all do it, but in my case it works, it is hard, sometimes my insecurities want to come afloat and do their thing but I have to consciously remind myself of this motto "We are all free to do and be what and who we want, including prettier than -me-"
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